Couples Trapped in Endless Cycles
For relationships trapped in conflict, betrayal, and isolation—discover a path to break free from your endless cycles.
Long Term Relationships Can Get Complicated
We fall into patterns in our partnerships that can lead us right back to the past. The fights feel constant and inevitable, you walk on eggshells, not knowing if anything will ever truly change. When we feel unsteady we reach for what’s familiar, old patterns of protection that prevent us from authentic connection. How can you connect when things feel so uncertain?
“The rule that surpasses all rules is that you must be connected, willing to see what's in front of you, and willing to move if what you're doing isn't working.”— Terrence Real
Extended Couples Therapy & Relationship Intensives
When couples find themselves repeating the same conflicts without getting underneath them, longer sessions can create the time and space to do deeper work. Extended couples therapy and relationship intensives give you more than the standard 50-minute appointment. They let us use your actual, current disagreements as the material for understanding the patterns that keep pulling you back into the same cycle.
These focused options range from 3-hour blocks to half-day and full-day intensives and are designed for couples who want to move past surface problems and into the emotional and relational dynamics that truly shape how you relate.
This work is ideal for you if:
You feel stuck in recurring fights that don’t change no matter how many times you talk about them
Weekly sessions feel too short to address the emotional charge and deeper patterns
You want to learn how to express hurt without defensiveness and build healthier conflict skills
You’re ready to explore what’s driving the cycle—not just manage the symptoms
Extended sessions offer more uninterrupted time to slow down, connect what you’re feeling with what you’re doing, and create real movement. They can reveal the deeper architecture of the patterns keeping you stuck and help you build something more sustainable together.
FAQs
What is extended couples therapy or a relationship intensive?
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Extended couples therapy offers longer, uninterrupted sessions—typically 3 hours, half day, or full day—so couples can move beyond surface-level conflict and work with the deeper patterns shaping their relationship. Instead of rushing to “fix” an argument, we slow things down to understand what keeps the same fights repeating and how early experiences, stress, and protective responses show up between partners.
Who are relationship intensives best suited for?
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These sessions are especially helpful for couples on the brink, couples feeling emotionally disconnected, or partners who sense that something deeper is happening beneath their conflict. Intensives are often a good fit when weekly therapy feels too short, too reactive, or when couples want focused momentum rather than months of circling the same issues.
How do early attachment wounds or CPTSD affect relationships?
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Early attachment wounds and CPTSD often shape how partners respond to conflict, closeness, and perceived threat—sometimes without realizing it. These patterns can look like shutting down, escalating quickly, over-functioning, or feeling chronically misunderstood. Extended sessions allow us to gently work with these dynamics in real time, helping partners recognize what’s being activated and respond with more clarity and care.
Do you work with neurodivergent couples?
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Yes. I specialize in working with neurodivergent couples, including relationships where one or both partners are autistic, ADHD, or otherwise wired differently. This work focuses on understanding differences in communication, sensory needs, emotional processing, and regulation—without framing difference as a deficit or trying to force partners into the same style.
Do you work with LGBTQIA+ couples and relationships?
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Yes. I work with LGBTQIA+ couples and individuals and understand how identity, safety, family systems, and societal pressure can impact relationships. This space is affirming, non-pathologizing, and grounded in respect for diverse relationship structures, identities, and lived experiences.
Find Connection in the Uncertainty
Using direct, compassionate, and, at times, brutally honest feedback we will work together to examine the reality of the relationship. We look at what the relationship is today, not what it was that we hoped for, or what our negative visions of our partner tell us. Once we wake up and see what it is, we can start the real work of building something worth fighting for. You get to build the relationship you deserve. To begin, we have to mend our relationships to ourselves, take accountability for wounds in the relationship, and do the hard work of change. (Read What Is RLT)