Discernment Counseling for Therapists
Advanced support for clinicians working with mixed-agenda couples and relational crossroads
Discernment Counseling is often introduced as a clear structure for couples unsure whether to stay together or separate. In practice, it’s rarely clean.
Trauma histories surface. Attachment wounds activate. One partner leans out while the other escalates. Therapists feel pulled toward repair, reassurance, or containment before clarity has had a chance to emerge.
This hub is for therapists who already understand the basics of Discernment Counseling and want deeper support applying it in real clinical settings, especially when trauma, attachment injury, neurodivergence, or power dynamics complicate the work.
Our Services
Focused individual consultation for therapists seeking clarity, containment, and ethical guidance in complex discernment cases shaped by trauma, attachment, or mixed agendas.
A year-long, case-based learning group for therapists who want ongoing support deepening their discernment practice alongside other clinicians doing this work.
Bi-annual, 90–120 minute facilitated watch parties combining Discernment demo videos with discussion, 5 watch parties over 10 weeks.
Where Therapists Commonly Get Stuck
Even experienced clinicians report getting pulled off course in discernment work. Common challenges include:
Sliding into couples therapy too quickly
Over-attending to the leaning-in partner’s distress
Struggling to contain high emotional reactivity or shutdown
Feeling pressure to help the couple “decide” rather than clarify
Navigating trauma histories without derailing the discernment frame
These moments aren’t clinical failures. They’re signals that the work requires a steadier frame and clearer containment.
Advanced Discernment Practice
Advanced discernment support for therapists working with mixed-agenda couples and relational systems shaped by trauma and attachment injury.
This work is especially helpful when:
Clinicians are newer to Discernment Counseling and want support applying the model in real clinical settings
Cases become emotionally charged, polarized, or stuck beyond the basic structure
Trauma histories, attachment wounds, or power dynamics complicate the discernment process
Therapists feel uncertain about containment, pacing, or when repair work is premature
Join one of our groups to process the DC training material, stay on track for certification or join a Watch Party and see DC in action
Support includes consultation and advanced training informed by the updated Discernment Counseling model and is designed to deepen clarity, containment, and ethical decision-making without pulling therapists out of their clinical authority.
Meet the Founder
I’m Lyn Martin, LMFT, founder of Attached NY. I work clinically with couples and individuals navigating attachment injuries, trauma histories, and major relational turning points. I also teach therapists how to approach discernment work with steadiness, clarity, and ethical precision.
My approach integrates Discernment Counseling, Relational Life Therapy, attachment-based trauma work, and somatic awareness. I’m especially interested in helping therapists hold complexity without rushing outcomes or defaulting to repair before clarity has emerged.
Next Steps…
If you’re looking for support with discernment cases, advanced training, or consultation, you don’t have to do this work alone.
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