Extended Couples Therapy
A grounded, trauma-informed space for couples who need more time, more clarity, and a pace that lets you finally understand what’s happening between you.
Virtual sessions in New York, New Jersey and Connecticut | In-person sessions in North Jersey
For couples in New York, New Jersey, or Connecticut who need time, clarity, and a space that holds the full weight of what’s happening between you
Weekly therapy is valuable and effective for many couples. Extended sessions simply offer a different kind of container — more time, fewer interruptions, and a chance to sit with what surfaces instead of shelving it until next week.
Some couples find that this format helps them get underneath long-standing patterns more quickly. Others simply feel more grounded when they don’t have to rush
A different kind of space:
Extended sessions are for:
Extended work is often a good fit for couples who feel like every conflict starts somewhere small — dishes, plans, timing, chores — but quickly opens the door to the bigger questions:
“How can we have the same fight again?”
“Why does everything blow up?”
“Why don’t you get it?”
“You never understand me”
“We can never move on”
It’s not about the dishwasher. It’s about the deeper injuries and adaptations that get activated underneath it.
FAQs
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An extended session is simply a longer, structured therapy appointment — 90 minutes, 3 hours, or 6 hours — designed to give couples enough space to understand what’s happening beneath recurring conflict. It’s not a replacement for weekly therapy; it’s an option for couples who benefit from fewer interruptions and a deeper pace.
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This format is often helpful for couples who find themselves stuck in the same loop: the argument starts small (dishes, schedules, tone) and quickly escalates into fear, resentment, disconnection, or questions about the future. If you’re carrying trauma histories, facing a major life transition, or feeling unsure about staying together, the additional time can help you gain clarity.
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Lyn is a Discernment Counseling Master Practitioner, trauma specialist, and RLT-informed clinician who works at the intersection of attachment, neurobiology, and relational patterns. She’s trained specifically to help couples at crossroads, navigating ambivalence, or facing complex trauma dynamics. She also works comfortably with LGBTQ+ couples, CNM/open relationships, interfaith partnerships, and neurodivergent-mixed dynamics.
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No single session — extended or not — can promise that. Extended work offers clarity, movement, and understanding of your patterns. Some couples use extended sessions once and continue in weekly therapy; others use them periodically during harder seasons. The focus is insight and direction, not guarantees.
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Not necessarily. They can support weekly therapy, offer a jump-start, or function as a standalone format depending on your situation. Lyn will help you determine the best fit without pushing one model over another.
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Yes. Many couples use extended sessions when one or both partners are unsure about continuing the relationship. Lyn’s training as a Discernment Counseling Master Practitioner supports mixed-agenda couples in gaining clarity without pressure to choose a particular outcome.
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Yes. Lyn regularly works with couples exploring new possibilities — opening up, rebuilding trust, renegotiating agreements, or reconnecting after long stretches of emotional distance.
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Yes. Extended sessions are available virtually across New York, New Jersey, and Connecticut, with limited in-person availability in Northern New Jersey.
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Your Struggling with...
Recurring conflict that starts small but escalates into bigger questions
Complex trauma or attachment wounds shaping the dynamic
Life transitions (new baby, identity shifts, career change, kids moving out)
Divorce ambivalence and crossroads moments
Couples exploring new relationship structures or rebuilding trust
Long-term partners feeling unfamiliar to one another
You are uncertain about how long it will take before you feel some relief.
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Lyn's style...
Discernment Counseling Master Practitioner (specialized in mixed-agenda couples)
Trauma-informed, attachment-based approach
RLT-informed interventions that name patterns without shaming
Deep experience with LGBTQ+,CNM/open, interfaith, and neurodivergent-mixed couples
Local to Norther New Jersey and serving NYC since 2016
An approach that honors what’s possible without promising what isn’t
Extended Options & Price
90 Minutes
Extra space to slow down and get underneath the pattern.
$350
Half Day
3 hours of structured momentum with individual and joint segments.
$650
Full Day
6 hours of dedicated time to reset for couples facing major turning points
$1200 (50-minute lunch)
Where to start…
Step 1
Find what type of therapy works best for you
Ask Lyn all the questions
See how Lyn vibes with you (or not and ask for some referrals)
Step 2
Start the work:
Individual + joint therapy
Trauma-aware pacing
Pattern naming
Adaptive strategy change based on old patterns & future goals
Somatic grounding & pause techniques that keep you in your relational brain
Clear goals and practices to take with you outside of sessions
Time to practice with tools with therapist direct support & guidance
Step 3
Go into your real life and practice the tools and skills when life gets real
Decide how many sessions you want as your base
Set a time to check in to track progress and address challenges
Come back when you need a tune-up, check-in, or celebration of progress! It might be in a month or a year or 2
Need more than weekly therapy to make sense of what’s under the surface?
Reach out and chat with Lyn to find out more about the different options for you. Schedule a consultation or email directly Lynda@attachedny.com
Serving NY, NJ, CT (In-Person options available in some locations) | Rindwood NJ | 929.344.0040